“If you’ll not settle for anything less than your best, you will be amazed at what you can accomplish in your lives.”- Vince Lombardi
So often, my students tell me they can’t do the skill we’ve just discussed. A lack of self-confidence is often part of what has brought them to me anyway, so I smile softly and ask them why? They always tell me they don’t know why, but they know they can’t do a problem. I make them try one anyway, usually with a, “Give it a try. You just might surprise yourself.”
This conversation usually repeats itself while the student is working on mastering the skill, but when the same skill shows up later, the student often tackles it without thinking, simply because they know they can do it.
Sometimes, we face a skill that we’re positive we’ll never master, or a situation we’re sure we’ll never make it through successfully. Because a fear of failure has become ingrained in our society, so many of us walk away from the skill or situation, giving up on ourselves for fear of failing.
What we’ve really done is sold ourselves short.
When you try something outside your comfort zone, when you refuse to let yourself give in to the fear of potential failure, you give yourself the chance to grow, to find out you can succeed in unfamiliar territory. That is one of the greatest confidence builders out there.
Don’t sell yourself short. Don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to try. Amaze yourself with what you can do when you put your mind to it.